I am a Survivor

Hi Everyone

I have created a face book page called I am a survivor.
I have designed this page to inspire others. I will be posting recovery stories, inspiration quotes and letting people know they are not alone. If you would like to share your story of survival on this Facebook page, get in contact with me by giving me a message.





  • In 2013 there were 8.2 million cases of anxiety in the UK
  • In England women are almost twice as likely to be diagnosed with anxiety disorder as men.
  • Anxiety disorders are the most common of all mental health problems.

These figures come from www.mentalhealth.org.uk

It is a normal part of life for any individual to feel anxious however when we develop it more often this causes a problem for us in our daily life’s it can become a anxiety disorder. Anxiety is a feeling of worry, fear, nervousness. This can  lead are body’s to experience the fight, flight or freeze response  of our sympathetic nervous system. There is a difference between fear and anxiety. When we have anxiety its an emotional response that hasn’t occurred, there is a build up in are bodies, tension. Are mind is looking for scenarios that could happen. Fear is an emotion caused by danger, pain or harm.

Anxiety disorders can affect anyone both men and women also they can develop in children. There are many different types of this they include

  • acute stress disorder
  • panic disorder
  • social phobias
  • post-traumatic stress disorder
  • obsessive-compulsive disorder
  • generalized anxiety disorder

Many people suffer with this for years without seeking help. It is important that you get the help you need, there is no shame in getting support. This is a medical disorders that can be diagnosed and treated. I have suffer myself with anxiety, this was panic disorder, which means unexpected panic attacks which may involve physical symptoms such as sweating, heart palpitations, short of breath, raised heart rate, nausea or trembling.

I got the help I needed by my doctor as it was starting to control my life. For anyone who has suffered from anxiety I know how hard it can be to enjoy life. Now I am happy with life and can control it. If you are feeling like you need help with anxiety there is help you can receive by your local doctor, a national charity helping people with anxiety(www.anxiety.org.uk) and healthy minds.

I went through healthy minds, this is a service that can support people struggling to cope with depression, anxiety, low in mood, stress and they can help you if you have a long term condition.  They offer a range of services, from online self-help, to 1 to 1 therapy sessions or group workshops.

Here are some tips below that help me, maybe they can work for you too. why not give them a try –

 Tips that could help with anxiety

  • Eat healthy
  • Exercise daily
  • Get enough sleep
  • Be aware of your thoughts
  • Talk to someone that can help you
  • Music
  • Take deep breaths
  • Meditate
  • Cut out drinking to much coffee, tea and energy drinks
  • Writing down how you are feeling







Love Yourself



In order to move forward and achieve a satisfying, meaningful and happy life it is important to love yourself and who you are as a person. Here are some TIPS in doing so.
1. Stop putting yourself down
Don’t be so hard on yourself, nobody’s perfect and we don’t always come from perfect back grounds either.
2. Take care of yourself
Taking care of yourself should always come first. I am a mum of 2 young boys. If I didn’t take care of myself then I couldn’t be the best mum I can to raise my two boys.
3. Praise yourself
Always praise yourself when you do well, even if it’s something small.
4. Be your own best friend
You are stuck with yourself so why not be your own best friend.
5. Be positive 

Negative thoughts will only multiply. So every day it is important to stay positive. What we tell ourselves every day we believe it so tell your self you can do it, achieve it and follow your dreams.






Fighting Back With Confidence


Fight back and hit it hard with confidence. I told myself over and over again that I couldn’t do it that I had no confidence. Well guess what everyone I can do it and so can YOU. You need to start changing what you tell yourself every day, turning your negative comments in to positive ones. It will get easier I promise you.



Do it


Be the best version of you that you can be. We only have one life. So, what ever you love doing and what makes you happy, own it and go and do it. So today why don’t you come out of your comfort zone and just do one thing you think you can’t do but can do.

Drop me a comment below
Let me know what you did
Trust me you will feel good so when you do praise yourself



Petition: All jurors in rape trials to complete training about rape myths.

‘A young girl was recently a survivor to a case of serious sexual assault. She was brave enough to tell the police who arrested and charged an individual for Kidnap and Attempted Rape. Later, another girl came forward stating the same individual had assaulted her and another charge of Rape was added. Unfortunately, in spite of overwhelming evidence against the individual, the jury found him not guilty for all three charges. It is the two girls, their families and friends belief that this was because the jury were not sufficiently educated on the technical law of Rape and that they were not told to dispel any commonly held rape myths they may have believed’
This petition was sent to The Survivors Trust and has their full support.

Research shows that jurors accept commonly held rape myths resulting in many incorrect not guilty verdicts. Rapists are walking free from court, although evidence is robust. This ruins lives. Rape conviction in the UK is very low. Compared to other crimes conviction is 21% lower.

Research by Rape Crisis & Alison Saunders, Director of Public Prosecutions, finds that jurors often accept rape myths & thus acquit rapists who are in fact guilty. 66% of jurors do not understand judges’ legal directions which attempt to dispel rape myths, but fail. Jurors need proper rape myth training prior to & throughout trials.

I have signed this petition as I strongly agree that all juror to complete training about rape myths. Those young girls were very brave. They are not alone. There is love and support out there for survivors. If we stand together, we can help to create a wider environment in which survivors feel safe and confident to seek the support and justice they need, want and deserve.

Please help by signing this petition x you can do so by the link below or visiting the survivors trust on Facebook or Twitter.



Good Morning


20180122_064718       Morning everyone. Its a Monday morning feeling fresh and ready to start my day. Today I am delivering training.

What are all your plans for the day?

Just writing this blog to give you some of my tips I use on staying positive.

  • Smile
  • Exercise
  • Read positive quotes
  • Be around people that love you and that make you happy
  • Sing
  • Meditate or try yoga
  • Use positive words when talking to other people
  • If you are finding it hard and experiencing difficulties when replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts, never give up. Keep looking for them good and happy thoughts. Focus on what makes you happy.
  • Help people, this will make you feel good.
  • Eat and sleep well.
  • Start your day in a positive way, this can be done by having an uplifting conversation with friends or family, listening or reading inspiring articles this can be done on the way to work on the bus or even while having your breakfast before work. This can make a big difference for how you whole day will go.

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Morning Routine

I often hear people say they are not a morning person, even get up as late as possible, skip breakfast, rush to work. Having this type of routine will take its toll on your physical and mental well being. We all want to be happy in life and creating a good morning routine is essential for lifetime success. Your starting the day right with a good morning routine is important as it sets the tone for the whole day. Everyone’s morning routine might be different however its starting it in a positive way that matters.

One of the goals I have set myself is to start the day off right, and let me tell you its working. I use to be someone that didn’t like mornings and getting out of bed. However now I have found a good morning routine I am happy in the mornings and it really does help to start the day of in a positive way. This will continue throughout the day. In the picture below is me on my day off from work. I love a good morning workout. It makes me feel good and who doesn’t want to feel refreshed and amazing to set your day off right.


My morning routine on this particular day started like this. On hearing my alarm I got out of bed. Turned my children’s lamp on and put some music on we all liked. “boys time to get up” I’m singing and dancing. Handing them there folded school uniforms. My eldest son jumps out of bed and starts smiling and dancing with me. My youngest who likes his bed and reminds me of a teenage boy, who never wants to get up, opens his eyes, starts smiling and has a dance while getting dressed. Once we are all ready after having a good breakfast I take them to school.

Now its my time and off to the gym I go. I love a good hard morning workout. Focused and feeling positive. When we exercise our body releases chemicals called endorphins. these endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain that reduce your perception of pain like a natural analgesia. Endorphins also trigger a positive feeling in the body similar to that of morphine giving you that feel good factor you need to start your day.

So having told you my morning routine, what is yours? Does it leave you feeling positive? If the answer is no, you can always change it. Tomorrow is a new day.