Experiencing the Three Highest Mountains in the UK!

3 peak challengeOne day left until we set off to Scotland and the self-doubt started to push its way through a little. This would be one of the hardest challenges I have ever faced. I needed to change my mindset and that is exactly what I started doing. Friday morning arrived and I wake up with a cold, and it’s that time of the month. So, the period pains would soon start aswel. Great I don’t feel 100 percent to start with but I was loaded with tablets in my bag so that would help. The six and half hour drive to Fort William in Scotland on Friday afternoon with Derek and Brad gave me time to relax, take on board some sound advice, and contemplate the task ahead.

For anyone who has never camped near the lakes around Fort William, the Scottish midges are an absolute nightmare. They attacked us in their thousands. So, I opted for a sleepless night in the car before getting up at 4 am to stand facing the monstrous Ben Nevis. I have never walked up any mountains before so I didn’t know what to expect really. I had just been told about it and the truth is, until you experience it, you won’t know the challenges you have to face to complete all three mountains. With every corner I turned on Ben Nevis, I thought ‘I have not got long now,’ but then I looked up and saw little people hundreds of metres above me on the trail ahead, and the realisation set in that this is much harder than I thought.

An hour of walking and my lower back pain set in, and it was there to stay. Two hours into the walk my legs started to ache. Half way up the mountain the temperature dropped, and let me tell you it was freezing, and layers of clothing began to be added. As we got more than half way up the mountain, I was so relieved I was with two experienced men who have climbed this mountain before. I was relieved to have four rest periods on the way up. I don’t normally like drinking water but as soon as the liquid hit my mouth, it tasted like the best drink I had ever tasted.

Looking around at the views as we made our way higher were nothing like I had ever seen. It was breath taking. I could have just sat down and looked out into the views for hours and get lost in the moment, I had to keep walking as we had to cover a lot of ground. I could just about see the summit and my energy and pace increased to reach the cairn on top of this monster. Elation at the top and photographs taken quickly, because the cold forced us to spend as little time up there as possible. The journey back started and the realisation that coming down Ben Nevis is just as exhausting as going up.

We made good time and back at the car with little rest, we set off on the five-hour journey to the Lake District to face the next challenge, Scafell Pike. The back seat of the car was my haven and allowed me to put my legs out horizontal to increase blood flow. We stopped off at the services a few times as Derek faced another challenge of driving as well as climb the three mountains. We eventually arrived at the start point of our climb and after fifteen minutes of preparation we started our journey up the second mountain.

Scafel Pike!

 

My legs tired quickly and I wondered how I was going to do this. Again, Scafell has lots of blind peaks and with every turn I looked up to the tiny people on the trail ahead but I had to dig deep and not get overwhelmed. Derek stuck with me the whole way up encouraging me to keep going. The physical pain with my lower back and tired legs played havoc with my mind, but I faced much harder challenges in the past and I kept this in my mind as I pushed myself to keep going. Two hours and twenty minutes later we were at the summit of the mountain. I was very tired and my body ache and I dreaded the journey off the mountain.

 It was getting dark and the pace down was slow. There were many climbers on the trail and I had to keep standing off to one side to allow faster walkers room to pass. I was in so much pain with every step, and again, coming down was much harder than going up. We arrived back at the car just after midnight and it was time to try and sleep, and again I opted to stay in the car without much luck of sleep for the second night.

4am on Sunday morning we packed up our gear and started the five and half hour journey to Snowdonia National Park in Wales. Several stops on the way allowed Derek to get rest until we reached the car park to start the climb up Snowden.

I was feeling optimistic about my final climb, even though I was extremely exhausted from walking the last two mountains with hardly any sleep. Everyone was tired when we got out of the car at Snowden. You could sense the atmosphere between the three of us. My enthusiasm to walk up the mountain with my back pack started a little disagreement with Derek. Looking back now he was right, as I would have started up the mountain with the back pack placed on my back, and half way up Derek would have had to carry it as exhaustion and pain would have prevented me from carrying extra weight. Derek knew this from experience because he carried my bag on Ben Nevis.

We all started to walk in the direction of the final mountain and all I thought about was ‘right 2 down and 1 to go.’ My legs from the day before were really sore I felt like I couldn’t walk properly. I wasn’t going to give up now because this was going to be worth it in the end, and not only was I raising money for The Survivors Trust, but I was doing it to show people that the pain will not last forever and we all go through storms and challenges in life that shakes us into doubting ourselves and our abilities. In the end with the power to believe you can get through it.

The walk to the base of Snowden was a gradual one, but my back pain set in quite early. We walked around the lakes and then turned to face the steep track up the mountain side. I was tired and in pain and knew this was going to be the hardest climb. Some of the track was a scramble up rock faces and I struggled with this. At some stages I became panicked with the severity of the drops around me and the steepness of some of the stages. I struggled with my breathing and the pain in my legs but Derek helped me to calm down and control my respiration rate. I was exhausted half way up and stopped several times to rest. During one of these rest breaks I ate the best apple and again drank the best water I ever tasted.

Snowdon

It was so hard to keep going and I cried with the pain and being overwhelmed with it all, but I kept going. I made it on to the mountain top and then started the gradual climb to the summit. I started the climb up the steps on to the cairn with aching legs and back, and after a hug from my team, I stood to have my photo taken. Celebrations were completed with a cup of hot chocolate and a doughnut in the Snowden Summit café.

We followed the train tracks of the mountain as this route was less painful on the body. We reached the car at around 5pm and commenced the long journey home. All I wanted was to see my two sons.

I am so grateful for all the support I have received in doing this challenge. Family, friends, and work colleagues that stood by me and believed I could do it, donated money, shared and liked social media posts. I now want to say a thank you to Brad for all the advice and support along the way, I would say it is a start of a good friendship for the future. Here’s to more adventures Brad. And now, a huge thank you to Derek who was my rock all the way up and down the three mountains. He has the patience of a saint to put up with me, let’s put it that way.

So, guys, what are we doing next?

I am currently collecting in donations that have been made so once I have completed this I will inform you all of how much I have raised altogether.  If you would still like to make a donation you can do via the link provided below.

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/sam-huskings1

 

And as I always end my blog posts, here’s to never giving up

#nevergiveup

 

 

 

 

Making a difference

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1 in 5 women have experienced sexual abuse/assault.

1 in 6 men have experienced sexual abuse as a child and 1 in 20 men will experience sexual assault.

An estimated 3.1% of women (510,000) and 0.8% of men (138,000) aged 16 to 59 experienced sexual assault in the last year, according to the year ending March 2017

20% of women and 4% of men have experienced some type of sexual assault since the age of 16, equivalent to an estimated 3.4 million female victims and 631,000 male victims.

The above figures from the office of national statistics are shocking. Living after experiencing rape or sexual abuse can be devastating. It is important to let people know that they are not alone in this world when they are going through this traumatic time. Each individual is different and it takes them as long as it needs to heal. Survivors should be proud of them selves because they are strong and brave.

In my life I feel like my purpose is to help people and support them. If I had a magic wand I would heal and take away everyone’s pain and suffering. Let me tell you all that it is possible to heal and move forward with your life as I’m living proof. Your dreams and goals in life will shine through again and when they do you will grow into the person you want to be.

If any of you have seen my recent posts then you will know that I am taking part in the 3 Peak Challenge in aid of The Survivors Trust. Starting with Ben Nevis, Scafell Pike and Snowdon on the 22nd and 23rd June. The count down is on as it is fast approaching. Guess what I am excited and I cannot wait to tackle this challenge head on.

gym.jpgGiving you all an update on my progress on training I have been going on walks, exercising at the gym and even doing a few home work outs when I can’t get to the gym. This is me at the gym today after doing a hard cardio workout. This is going to be the hardest physical challenge I have ever set myself. I am determined to successfully complete this endeavour and enjoy the whole experience. I am doing this to raise awareness and support every survivor that is walking this earth. My journey through life has led me to were I am today and I wouldn’t change it. I’m going to need your help leading up to this challenge. Let’s shout it from the rooftops and raise awareness for every survivor. We can change lives by raising money for The Survivors Trust.

The Survivors Trust is the only UK and Ireland-wide umbrella agency for specialist organisations supporting all survivors of rape, sexual violence and childhood sexual abuse. The core aim of the survivor’s trust is to ensure that society supports all survivors effectively and takes responsibility for ending sexual violence. Help them to achieve this.

Every donation that is made will go towards helping a survivor in need in today’s society. I am so grateful for the donations so far. Please know that you are making a difference. My target is to continue to get as many people involved as I can so please share my blog post with as many people as you can.

If you would like to make a donation you can by the click of a button on the link provided below

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/sam-huskings1

#nevergiveup

xx

First day of Training Complete

trainingFollowing on from my recent post on my journey to complete the 3 Peak Challenge in June. Today was the first day of training with the weather being beautiful myself and Derek set of with our bottles of water on a walk of 18.08km. It wasn’t easy today but it was the first day of training so that was to be expected.

My legs and feet aching, my lower back was in discomfort. Pushing past this after completing the first day of training felt good.

This evening I’ve spent the time soaking in a warm bath and relaxing. I definitely needed this time to rest. This week I will continue to train with rest days in between. My training will be a mix of long walks, going to the gym and swimming. Increasing the length of my work outs gradually will allow me to improve my hiking endurance. Tomorrow I will be going too the gym with a shorter walk then today. Wednesday will be adventuring out on a new location for a long walk. I will keep you all update throughout my training with blog posts, pictures and videos.

To show your support you can follow me and help me raise money and awareness for the amazing team at The Survivors Trust. Earlier this year I meant with some of the survivors trust family doing a work shop in Understanding how rape and childhood sexual abuse affects survivors and how to respond to a disclosure. They are really nice and caring people who share the same passion as I do in having a positive impact on helping others. I am going to call it a night and will keep you all update later on in the week.

#nevergiveup #bosslady

x

 

3 Peak Challenge for The Survivors Trust

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I’ve decided to challenge myself by stepping out of my comfort zone. I want to complete the 3 peak challenge. This means I will climb the three highest peaks in the UK, Ben Nevis, Scafell Pike, and Snowdon, over two days and this will take place on June 22nd and 23rd June 2019. This gives me just 5 weeks to prepare for this and just to let you all know, I have never climbed a mountain in my life. I have a team behind me who are going to support my training and the climbing of all three peaks.

What I’m most nervous about is not being able to complete the challenge due to my fitness level and at the moment this is not up to the standard needed. I regularly go to the gym and I’m an active women in general but this is going to be the hardest challenge I’ve ever done. In the next 5 weeks Im going to be training not only my body but my mind as well. I believe if someone is mentally prepared then they can push past the physical pain. Hey I’ve been through a lot worse so here goes.

Where do I go to the toilet on this challenge. Come on I’m a woman, I need the bathroom toilet right. I am not going to be able to hold it in on this trek. So it must be that I have to go out side. So that is another challenge in its self. Just had a thought, Im laughing right now writing this and lets just say, I hope I only need a wee.

I am doing this challenge for many reasons. The first reason is challenging myself and feeling that sense of achievement. Second reason is I want to raise money and awareness for the Survivors Trust so they can carry on supporting people who need this service. I’m doing this for every survivor of sexual and domestic abuse. You are not alone. I’m challenging myself as I know I am strong and I can do it, I just have to believe I can. I want to show people that they are not alone in this world and you can achieve anything.

I have set up a just giving page through The Survivors Trust. All donations are welcome no matter how small or big. I really would appreciate all your support. On the weeks coming up to this challenge I will be blogging my training progress with you all and taking you on this amazing adventure with me.

The link to donate is below

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/sam-huskings1

Every five minutes in the UK someone experiences rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault by penetration. 15% of girls and 5% of boys have experienced sexual violence by the time they are sixteen.

The Survivors Trust is the only UK and Ireland-wide umbrella agency for specialist organisations supporting all survivors of rape, sexual violence and childhood sexual abuse. The core aim of the survivors trust is to ensure that society supports all survivors effectively and takes responsibility for ending sexual violence. Help them to achieve this.

So please with your help we can change lives.

Lets do this.

Look out for my next blogs on training my body and mind.

 

#nevergiveup

 

Manifesting your dreams

photo.me     Hello beautiful souls,

I am confident to tell you that what you want in life you can have. Your hopes, dreams and goals can become your reality. Yes, you all heard me right. People don’t always realize how unique we all are. The tittle of this blog post is called manifesting your dreams. Manifesting is intentionally creating what we want. When I was growing up, I wasn’t taught this. I have learnt this over time as an adult from different walks of life that have inspired me. Whatever we think about, we manifest into our life’s. So, if you are complaining all the time and thinking about the things you don’t want in life then this is exactly what you will manifest into your life.

By learning how to recognize your own thoughts and changing them to focus on what you want you can learn the secret of manifesting your dreams. I didn’t find this easy at first, I will be honest with you all however you have to learn how to use it then you will start seeing the results you want.

Firstly, you have to ask yourself what is your why? And

What is your motivation and purpose?

My why is leading a happy life for my children, giving them the things, I didn’t have as a child. Being proud to call me their mum. I believe now that I know what my purpose is in life. I am here to inspire and make a difference.

The past made us who we are. The future makes us who we are. I don’t get caught up on the past anymore. I can not change the past and neither can you. The past has made me who I am today and that is one hell of a strong women. Live in the present day where you can then change your future to how you would like it.

We all have emotions and that is normal so we can all feel sad, angry, frustrated, humiliated and the list can go on. Its remembering not to stay in that place for to long. Recognizing your thoughts and being positive can change your whole day which in turn then can change your life. Positive thoughts lead to positive outcomes.

When we are manifesting here are some things to consider.

  • Know your why

Knowing your why will give you the motivation to carry out your goals and desires in life. This will push you forward even if you come across obstacles along the way.

  • Gratitude

Live your life with gratitude. It is important to appreciate the things you have in life. Telling the universe that you feel blessed to have the things you already have in life. This will attract more of what you desire in life because the world is a reflection of you.

  • Clean up your clutter

Clean all of the clutter in your life. To make room for the new you must get rid of the old. The things that don’t serve you purpose get rid of.

  • Visualize

Visualize what your desires are. Seeing it clear as if you already have this in your life. Spend some time each day to do this. Make it as real as possible, focusing on the sensations and feelings.

  • Ask for guidance

It is okay to ask for guidance. You can pray and ask for guidance to help you move in the right direction.

  • Get a diary

We have dreams however we need to set goals in life. Buy yourself a diary and write down your goals for each day or week. Doing something little each day will lead you to bigger outcomes.

  • Imagination

As children our imagination was big and wide however when we get older we tend to limit ourselves with this as we make excuses or we fear what the outcome might be. So why not get them back into our life. Expand our imagination again.

  • Love yourself 

Empowering yourself daily using affirmations that have feelings. So today write down a list of what you believe you are. I am grateful, I am strong, I am loved this list can go on and on.

 

You all have a gift and a purpose in this life. Life is to short. So make it count. You have to take risks and make changes to allow your self to grow. You may fail more than once or twice however never give up. So believe you can and you’re half way there.

 

– If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it wont you will see obstacles. – Wayne Dyer

– Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.   – Winston Churchill

-Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do – Steve Jobs

So, what are you thinking about now?

What are you manifesting in your life?

Would love to hear from you all, leave me a comment below.

#nevergiveup

Survival girl

x

 

A Letter To My Past Self

 

photo of me  I’ve done this letter to my past self to show you by doing so it can help you move forward in life. It allows you to connect with your self, healing your mind and forgiving yourself and others. There are times in our past which are memorable for being painful and difficult. People often focus on what they could or should of done. We can not change the past, it doesn’t matter how many times you think about it, it wont change. No one has a time machine, to take us back. What you can do is give your past self some advice, this may help you to gain closure.

The future you can change so focus all of your energy on becoming the person you want to be.

If you cant fly, then run

If you cant run, then walk,

If you cant walk, then crawl

But what ever you do,

you have to keep moving forward.

Martin Luther King Jr 

 

 

Some Tips on Writing a Letter to your Past Self

  • Be honest with yourself in this letter
  • Refer to your past self as ‘you’
  • I would pick an age of yourself in this letter. This makes it easier for you to establish how you felt at that time of your life. If you need to you can always write more than one letter.
  • Be kind to yourself
  • You need to tell yourself what you needed to hear back then by yourself or by someone else.
  • Focus on one or two issues because if you talk about more than you need to, you can go too in depth and end up writing a book.
  • It will surprise you, once you get started the words will flow.
  • This is yours so own it.

 

This is my letter to my past self….

Dear 15 year old me,

I am writing this letter to you from the future. The future that you thought would be impossible to end your pain.

I know you are going through a really hard time in your life and you feel as though you are on your own however this doesn’t last forever I promise.

One day you will be strong enough to get justice and find some closure with the pain you feel. Some relationships you feel are broken right now, but one day you will be strong enough to repair them.

You are beautiful and strong. This will allow you to start to heal and learn that this will not define you as a person. You are not alone in life. Meeting new people will help you on your journey of recovery.

 It will take you time, but that is okay.

You can do this. Be kind to yourself.

You will be proud of the woman you will become.

Love

Your future self

#nevergiveup

 

 

 

Relationships

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There are different types of relationships we all form throughout life. We all have a part to play in each of these and they can change over time. The basic types of relationship are family, friendship, romantic and professional. All relationships are important and they lead us to a healthy happy successful life. In all relationships there will come a time where we face barriers, people work through the hard times or they move on. If someone would have given us a manual, relationships would be much easier however we learn about relationships through trial and error. If you would like to know more about relationships there are different articles out there now that can help you. Plus, there are counselors that can support people.

Firstly, I’m going to talk about family. The definition of family that everyone understands is a group of individuals who are related to each other by blood. Over the years however I have learnt that family isn’t always related to you, you can become a family through marriage, adoption or even close friends that become part of your family unit. So, families can be all shapes and sizes and can get bigger or smaller over the years. It is important that we carry on building good relationships with our families as it allows us to move forward and live a happy life.

Sometimes in life situations may happen and this causes barriers between family members. For many reasons families will come across difficulties within their relationships. We may disagree or argue with a loved one. You can even get family members not talking for a long time because they don’t like something they did. Life experiences change us, our values may change and also as we age we may see things differently. What you have got to remember is life is to short, nobody lasts forever. So, ask yourself this question if you have a family member you don’t speak to is it for a good reason, could you mend the relationship? We cannot choose our families, we are born into this world with the family we are given. Like I said at the beginning we can either work through issues we have or move on. If we move on with a family member make sure you will not regret it as time goes on.

I stopped talking to my mum for 6 years because I was hurt and heart broken and I didn’t feel loved. I felt angry inside. So, I thought the best way to deal with it was to not talk to my mum at all. I could never understand the decisions she made in life and why she made them. That would go over and over in my mind all the time, I couldn’t change what happened. I made a decision to start talking to her and forgive because life is too short and I didn’t want to live a life where I was becoming bitter and lost.

Your soul deserves peace so whoever hurts you and brings you down decide to forgive them not because they apologized or because they acknowledged the pain that they caused you but because you need to take back your life and change your story. You can be happy and there is light at the end. You have to believe you can do it.

Now let’s talk about friendships. Throughout life friends can come and go or you can have friendships that last a long time. Friendships is a relationship between people that have a mutual bond. Some people have more friends than others and that is okay. We go through life making new friends. As we move through our life some may be life long friends and others will fade out as we move forward in life. Even at a very young age we make friends and by the time we go from nursery to primary to high school we change or make new friends.

During an individual’s career we have professional relationships this is where first impressions count most, ensuring you provide a good friendly service no matter what job you do can lead to repeat business or recommendations, these relationships are often intermittent or not long lasting but we are brought together in that moment because of a shared interest.

Romantic relationships can be the most difficult, yet the easiest of all relationships, often starting with a simple physical attraction or shared interests, we allow ourselves to be at our most vulnerable in these relationships, trusting the other with our greatest dreams and biggest fears, who you choose to spend your life with is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make.

All of these relationships can interlink with each other. We can class family as friends, professional relationships can turn into friendships or even lead into a romantic relationship. Friendships can become family over time. Romantic relationships can turn into friendships. Friendships can lead to a sexual relationship. The list can go on.

#Never-Give-Up on relationships worth saving. x

 

 

 

Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone.

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This is one of the best ways to learn and grow as a person, it requires you to put yourself into a situation that you are often uncomfortable with or even afraid of. What do you feel challenges you and gets your adrenaline pumping just at the thought? Its always best to start off small but we don’t all take baby steps. Identify what it is you want to do and set the wheels in motion to make it happen. Above all else try not to take yourself too seriously and have fun.

I have had very low confidence in my body for years. However over the years I have learnt to love myself. I decided to come out of my comfort zone and enter a competition though a business called Curves Photography Studios. I got a phone call a month ago to say I had won a free hair, make up and photoshoot experience. I was excited and a little nervous because I had never done any thing like this before. I was going to do this, everyone deserves to feel empowered and sexy.

On the day everyone was so nice and they all made me feel so welcome and at home. They put me at ease throughout my experience with them.  I would recommend them to anyone who wants to step outside there comfort zone and experience an amazing day with the team. If you would like to know more about them then they have a Facebook page called Curves Photography Studios, so check them out.

 

#Never-Give-Up

xx

 

 

6 Reasons Why We Should Never Give Up

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I named my blog page Never give up because I never gave up even when life was hard. I had faith and believed I would be happy and be the best mother I could be to my children. I honestly believe every individual should never give up on life. We all have a story and lets face it at times life can be tough. Its how we deal with it that matters. Life is to short so why not live it being happy. I have learnt to become a strong independent women. I have learnt that your mind is very powerful and what you tell it, is important because it believes everything you tell it. So having negative thoughts wont allow you to have a positive life. 

Everyone has bad days and that’s okay, don’t be so hard on your self. Everyone has emotions we all feel these. Its making sure you don’t stay in that mind set for very long. Work on becoming a positive person.

Reasons to NEVER-GIVE-UP 

  1. Everything is possible-  This is true everything is possible, life is what you make it. You have everything you need to make it work. Failure is normal in life. So when you do Never give up and try again till you make it happen.  
  2. Life can be great if you believe in yourself. Everyone wants a great life so go out there and get it even if its outside your comfort zone.
  3. Inspire others. Your life experiences and hard work will inspire others this could change someone’s life for the better. Its a great feeling knowing you have helped some one to achieve their dreams in life. If you have children they are always watching and listenng when you think they are not. So make a difference and inspire them to become what they love doing and what makes them happy.  
  4. Improve the world. Once we have set our goals in place and achieved them. You could use your success to change the world.  
  5. Everyone deserves to be happy. This includes YOU. So if you are reading this and you are unhappy. Ask yourself why and make that change.
  6.  Lesson. By not giving up you will learn your strengths and weaknesses. You can make sure that next time you do come up with a plan and try better. 

 

My best quote I like to say, you guessed right….

#Never-Give-Up

Daily Reminders

20180412_165004 1  Each day we may need a little motivation to continue to stay on track with living a healthy lifestyle and to stay focused on achieving our goals. It is important to remember why you want to reach them. Every one has emotions and sometimes they can send us off track, and that is okay so don’t be hard on yourself when you have a off day. The important thing is that you soon get back on track and continue to grow in life. 

Here is a list of reminders for you all. So why not get creative and write or print them off. You could even stick them on your vision boards to see them daily. 

  • Smile– This is my favourite. Smile and watch others smile back.
  • Be proud of yourself, think about how far you have come and what you have achieved already.
  • Be kind to yourself and other people 
  • Exercise- I exercise all the time and it makes me feel good. So why not give it a try. 
  • Outside- Connect with nature. I love going for a nice long walk.
  • You have control of your happiness 
  • Think positive 
  • Drink plenty of water 
  • Eat good nutritious food 

 

#NeverGiveUp